What it takes to fuel relationships and tether hearts

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I was raised to believe that gays and lesbians are an abomination to god. I was taught that god didn’t like those types of people and they needed to be fixed before god could let them into heaven, let alone love them. I grew up in a middle-class, predominately white environment where sexual orientation, culture, and racism were never discussed.

Letting go of this diabolical thinking was the second best thing I’ve done as an adult. Supporting my lesbian daughters with unconditional love is the first.

When my daughters were born I was still pretty naive about life, love, and…


Or is your partner having mercy sex with you?

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Before we figure out if you’re a person someone else could want, ask yourself this:

How do YOU finally come to believe that you’re a person someone could want?

All relationships with other people start with . . . your relationship with yourself.

Self Relationships

It’s challenging — to say the least — to enjoy a healthy relationship with another person when you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself.

If you are not connected to yourself and understand your own emotions and desires, then how can you successfully connect with another person? …


And two writing exercises to improve your craft

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Let’s return to the basics. Children’s books are (most likely) where we all started reading. For many, it’s where the love affair with words and stories first began.

Here are two writing tips and writing exercises to improve your craft.

Mind Pictures

Children’s books are full of pictures. Well, most of them are. And for good reason. Pictures help us understand what we’re reading and inspire visual thinking. If you want your readers hooked on your writing, you’ve got to give them at least a few mind pictures along the way.

I’m not suggesting that all adult writing should shift and include…


And just write already

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Everybody wants passion.

We crave passionate relationships. We desire passionate and meaningful careers. We become passionate about protecting animal rights or saving rainforests.

Passion has its place. But do we really need it for writing?

Here are three quick tips for not following your passion when it comes to writing.

  1. STOP letting passion be the enthusiasm that propels you forward in your writing career. Passion is not sustainable.

There’s not enough fuel inside the passion furnace to keep you going for the rest of your writing life. There will be days you feel like writing and days you will not…


Dreaming of a literary life

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Ever had a dream become a reality? Maybe you dreamed of being a writer some day and finally one day you published a story or a poem or an article and BAM!! You were a writer!

After the adrenaline dipped, you probably realized that to remain a writer, you’d have to do it again. And again. And . . . again.

And even when you do write again and again and again — even though you never tire of reading your byline — you may feel like something is missing from this scenario. …


April 24, 2021 from 10am to 2pm

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It’s Spring Cleaning time! As you organize closets and scrub baseboards, be sure to clear out your medicine cabinet. Collect all those outdated and unused prescription medications and take them back.

The Diversion Drug Division of the U.S. Department of Justice and Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) is spreading the word: the 19th National Prescription Drug Take Back Day is almost here!

Why Should You Bother?

Ideally, unused medications should be disposed of as soon as they’re no longer needed.

Potential risks of keeping unused medications around include:

— accidentally grabbing the wrong medication bottle when you go to take your medications

— being used…


My separation-from-religion experience

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This is the sixth part of a 6-part series chronicling my journey away from religion. If it offends you, I’m sorry, but you really shouldn’t let other people’s experiences trouble you. This is my experience and isn’t intended to discredit your experiences or beliefs in any way. My journey is mine and your journey is yours. I respect them equally.

Part 6: The Final Slice

Although my childhood was irrationally acceptable— I felt included, part of a hand-picked delegation — it left me without a proper education and without a solid sense of self. …


My separation-from-religion experience

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This is the fifth part of a 6-part series chronicling my journey away from religion. If it offends you, I’m sorry, but you really shouldn’t let other people’s experiences trouble you. This is my experience and isn’t intended to discredit your experiences or beliefs in any way. My journey is mine and your journey is yours. I respect them equally.

Part 5: Pulling at the Seams

At 45 years old, I found a lump of cancer. Turns out there were three cancer lumps. I didn’t know it then, but separation from The Body had commenced. For me cancer was not a gift, not a blessing. …


My separation-from-religion experience

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This is the fourth part of a 6-part series chronicling my journey away from religion. If it offends you, I’m sorry, but you really shouldn’t let other people’s experiences trouble you. This is my experience and isn’t intended to discredit your experiences or beliefs in any way. My journey is mine and your journey is yours. I respect them equally.

Part 4: The Real World

One week every summer my siblings and I were sent away two at a time to stay in the country with our grandparents. It took a two-hour backseat car ride to get there, but it was always worth it. Since…


My separation-from-religion experience

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This is the third part of a 6-part series chronicling my journey away from religion. If it offends you, I’m sorry, but you really shouldn’t let other people’s experiences trouble you. This is my experience and isn’t intended to discredit your experiences or beliefs in any way. My journey is mine and your journey is yours. I respect them equally.

Part 3: An Education of Isolationism

Eventually, my father was saved, receiving the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues while at work one day in his truck cab. Meanwhile, my mother drifted away from The Body and the truth. I was too young…

Julie Nyhus MSN, FNP-BC

Nurse practitioner, health/medical writer, wife, momma, amazing badass rocking 10 years without evidence of cancer! www.nprush.com Twitter @joolzfnp

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